"And the truth shall make you free." A speech on the principles of social
freedom, delivered in Steinway hall, Nov. 20, 1871, by Victoria C. Woodhull...
Religious freedom does, in a measure, exist in this country, but not yet perfectly; that is to say, a
person is not entirely independent of public opinion regarding matters of conscience. Though
since Political freedom has existed in theory, every person has the right to entertain any religious
theory he or she may conceive to be true, and government can take no cognizance thereof-he is
only amenable to society -despotism. The necessary corollary to Religious and Political freedom
is Social freedom, which is the third term of the trinity; that is to say, if Religious and Political
freedom exist, perfected, Social freedom is at that very moment guaranteed, since Social
freedom is the fruit of that condition.
We find the principle of Individual freedom was quite dormant until it began to speak against
the right of religious despots, to determine what views should be advocated regarding the
relations of the creature to the Creator. Persons began to find ideas creeping into their souls at
variance with the teachings of the clergy; which ideas became so strongly fixed that they were
compelled to protest against Religious Despotism. Thus, in the sixteenth century, was begun the
battle for Individual freedom. The claim that rulers had no right to control the consciences of the
people was boldly made, and right nobly did the fight continue until the absolute right to
individual opinion was wrung from the despots, and even the common people found themselves
entitled to not only entertain but also to promulgate any belief or theory of which they could
conceive.
With yielding the control over the consciences of individuals, the despots had no thought of
giving up any right to their persons. But Religious freedom naturally led the people to question
the right of this control, and in the eighteenth century a new protest found expression in the
French Revolution, and it was baptized by a deluge of blood yielded by thousands of lives. But
not until an enlightened people freed themselves from English tyranny was the right to self-government acknowledged in theory, and not yet even is it fully accorded in practice, as a
legitimate result of that theory.
It may seem to be a strange proposition to make, that there is no such thing yet existent in the
world as self-government, in its political aspects. But such is the fact. If self-government be the
rule, every self must be its subject. If a person govern, not only himself but others, that is
despotic government, and it matters not if that control be over one or over a thousand
individuals, or over a nation; in each case it, would be the same principle of power exerted
outside of self and over others, and this is despotism, whether it is exercised by one person over
his subjects, or by twenty persons over a nation, or by one-half the people of a nation over the
other half thereof. There is no escaping the fact that the principle by which the male citizens of
these United States assume to rule the female citizens is not that of self-government, but that of
despotism; and so the fact is that poets have sung songs of freedom, and anthems of liberty have
resounded for an empty shadow.
King George III, and his Parliament denied our forefathers the right to make their own laws; they
rebelled, and being successful, inaugurated this government. But men do not seem to
comprehend that they are now pursuing toward women the same despotic course that King
George pursued toward the American colonies.
But what is freedom? The press and our male governors are very much exercised about this
question, since a certain set of resolutions were launched upon the public by Paulina Wright
Davis at Apollo Hall, May 12, 1871. They are as follows:
Resolved, That the basis of order is freedom from bondage; not, indeed, of such "order" as
resigned in Warsaw, which grew out of the bondage; but of such order as reigns in Heaven,
which grows out of that developed manhood and womanhood in which each becomes "a law
unto himself."
Resolved, That freedom is a principle, and that as such it may be trusted to ultimate in
harmonious social results, as in America, it has resulted in harmonious and beneficent political
results; that it has not hitherto been adequately trusted in the social domain, and that the
woman's movement means no less than the complete social as well as the political
enfranchisement of mankind.
Resolved, That the evils, sufferings and disabilities of women, as well as of men, are social still
more than they are political, and that a statement of woman's rights which ignores the rights of
self-ownership as the first of all rights is insufficient to meet the demand, and is ceasing to enlist
the enthusiasm and even the common interest of the most intelligent portion of the community.
Resolved, That the principle of freedom is one principle, and not a collection of many different
and unrelated principles; that there is not at bottom one principle of freedom of conscience as in
Protestantism, and another principle of freedom from slavery as in Abolitionism, another of
freedom of locomotion as in our dispensing in America with the passport system of Europe,
another of the freedom of the press as in Great Britain and America, and still another of social
freedom at large; but that freedom is on and indivisible; and that slavery is so also; that freedom
and bondage or restriction is the alternative and the issue, alike, in every case; and that if
freedom is good in one case it is good in all; that we in America have builded on freedom,
politically, and that we cannot consistently recoil from that expansion of freedom which shall
make it the basis of all our institutions; and finally, that so far as we have trusted it, it has
proved, in the main, safe and profitable.
Now, is there anything so terrible in the language of these resolutions as to threaten the
foundations of society? They asset that every individual has a better right to herself or himself
than any other person can have. No living soul, who does not desire to have control over, or
ownership in, another person, can have any valid objection to anything expressed in these
resolutions. Those who are not willing to give up control over others; who desire to own
somebody beside themselves; who are constitutionally predisposed against self-government and
the giving of the same freedom to others that they demand for themselves, will of course object
to them, and such are the people with whom we shall have to contend in this new struggle for a
greater liberty
Now, the individual is either self-owned and self-possessed or is not so self-possessed. If he be
self-owned, he is so because he has an inherent right to self, which right cannot be delegated to
any second person; a right-as the American Declaration of Independence has it-which is
"inalienable." The individual must be responsible to self and God for his acts. If he be owned
and possessed by some second person, then there is no such thing as individuality: and that for
which the world has been striving these thousands of years is the merest myth.
But against this irrational, illogical, inconsequent and irreverent theory I boldly oppose the spirit
of the age-that spirit which will not admit all civilization to be a failure, and all past experience
to count for nothing; against that demagogism, I oppose the plain principle of freedom in its
fullest, purest, broadest, deepest application and significance-the freedom which we see
exemplified in the starry firmament, where whirl innumerable worlds, and never one of which is
made to lose its individuality, but each performs its part in the grand economy of the universe,
giving and receiving its natural repulsions and attractions; we also see it exemplified in every
department of nature about us: in the sunbeam and the dewdrop; in the storm-cloud and the
spring shower; in the driving snow and the congealing rain-all of which speak more eloquently
than can human tongue of the heavenly beauty, symmetry and purity of the spirit of freedom
which in them reigns untrammeled.
Our government is based upon the proposition that: All men and women are born free and equal
and entitled to certain inalienable rights, among which are life, liberty and the pursuit of
happiness. Now what we, who demand social freedom, ask, is simply that the government of this
country shall be administered in accordance with the spirit of this proposition. Nothing more,
nothing less. If that proposition mean anything, it means just what it says, without qualification,
limitation or equivocation. It means that every person who comes into the world of outward
existence is of equal right as an individual, and is free as an individual, and that he or she is
entitled to pursue happiness in whatever direction he or she may choose. Now this is absolutely
true of all men and all women. But just here the wise-acres stop and tell us that everybody must
not pursue happiness in his or her own way; since to do so absolutely, would be to have no
protection against the action of individual. These good and well-meaning people only see one-half of what is involved in the proposition. They look at a single individual and for the time lose
sight of all others. They do not take into their consideration that every other individual beside
the one whom they contemplate is equally with him entitled to the same freedom; and that each
is free within the area of his or her individual sphere; and not free within the sphere of any other
individual whatever. They do not seem to recognize the fact that the moment one person gets out
of his sphere into the sphere of another, that other must protect him or herself against such
invasion of rights. They do not seem to be able to comprehend that the moment one person
encroaches upon another person's rights he or she ceases to be a free man or woman and
becomes a despot. To all such persons we assert: that it is freedom and not despotism which we
advocate and demand; and we will as rigorously demand that individuals be restricted to their
freedom as any person dare to demand; and as rigorously demand that people who are
predisposed to be tyrants instead of free men or women shall, by the government, be so
restrained as to make the exercise of their proclivities impossible.
If life, liberty ad the pursuit of happiness are inalienable rights in the individual, and government
is based upon that inalienability, then it must follow as a legitimate sequence that the functions
of that government are to guard and protect the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness,
to the end that every person may have the most perfect exercise of them. And the most perfect
exercise of such rights is only attained when every individual is not only fully protected in his
rights, but also strictly restrained to the exercise of them within his own sphere, and positively
prevented from proceeding beyond its limits, so as to encroach upon the sphere of another:
unless that other first agree thereto.
From these generalizations certain specializations are deducible, by which all questions of rights
must be determined:
· 1. Every living person has certain rights of which no law can rightfully deprive him.
· 2. Aggregates of persons form communities, who erect governments to secure regularity
and order.
· 3. Order and harmony can alone be secured in a community where every individual of
whom it is composed is fully protected in the exercise of all individual rights.
· 4. Any government which enacts laws to deprive individuals of the free exercise of their
right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness is despotic, and such laws are not
binding upon the people who protest against them, whether they be a majority or a
minority.
· 5. When every individual is secure in the possession and exercise of all his rights, then
every one is also secure from the interference of all other parties.
· 6. All inharmony and disorder arise from the attempts of individuals to interfere with the
rights of other individuals, or from the protests of individuals against governments for
depriving them of their inalienable rights.
These propositions are all self-evident, and must be accepted by every person who subscribes to
our theory of government, based upon the sovereignty of the individual; consequently any law in
force which conflicts with any of them is not in accord with that theory and is therefore
unconstitutional.
A fatal error into which most people fall, is, that rights are conceded to governments, while they
are only possessed of the right to perform duties, as a farther analysis will show:
In the absence of any arrangement by the members of a community to secure order, each
individual is a law unto himself, so far as he is capable of maintaining it against all other
individuals; but at the mercy of all such who are bent on conquest. Such a condition is anarchy.
But if in individual freedom the whole number of individuals unite to secure equality and
protection to themselves, they thereby surrender no individual rights to the community, but they
simply invest the community with the power to perform certain specified duties, which are set
forth in the law of their combination. Hence a government erected by the people is invested, not
with the rights of the people, but with the duty of protecting and maintaining their rights intact;
and any government is a failure or a success just so far as it fails or succeeds in this duty; and
these are the legitimate functions of government.
I have before said that every person has the right to, and can, determine for himself what he will
do, even to taking the life of another. But it is equally true that the attacked person has the right
to defend his life against such assault. If the person succeed in taking the life, he thereby
demonstrates that he is a tyrant who is at all times liable to invade the right to life, and that
every individual of the community is put in jeopardy by the freedom of this person. Hence it is
the duty of the government to so restrict the freedom of this person as to make it impossible for
him to ever again practice such tyranny. Here the duty of the community ceases. It has no right
to take the life of the individual. That is his own, inalienably vested in him, both by God and the
Constitution.
A person may also appropriate the property of another if he so choose, and there is no way to
prevent it; but once having thus invaded the rights of another, the whole community is in danger
from the propensity of this person. It is therefore the duty of government to so restrain the liberty
of the person as to prevent him from invading the spheres of other persons in a manner against
which he himself demands, and is entitled to, protection.
The same rule applies to that class of persons who have a propensity to steal or to destroy the
character of others. This class of encroachers upon others' rights, in some senses, are more
reprehensible than any other, save only those who invade the rights of life; since for persons to
be made to appear what they are not may, perhaps, be to place them in such relations with third
persons as to destroy their means of pursuing happiness. Those who thus invade the pursuit of
happiness by others, should be held to be the worst enemies of society; proportionably worse
than the common burglar or thief, as what they destroy is more valuable than is that which the
burglar or thief can appropriate. For robbery there may be some excuse, since what is stolen may
be required to contribute to actual needs; but that which the assassin of character
appropriates does neither good to himself nor to any one else, and makes the loser poor indeed.
Such persons are the worst enemies of society.
I have been thus explicit in the analysis of the principles of freedom in their application to the
common affairs of life, because I desired, before approaching the main subject, to have it well
settled as to what may justly be considered the rights of individuals; or in other words what
individual sovereignty implies.
It would be considered a very unjust and arbitrary, as well as an unwise thing, if the government
of the United States were to pass a law compelling persons to adhere during life to everything
they should to-day accept as their religion, their politics and their vocations. It would manifestly
be a departure from the true functions of government. The apology for what I claim to be an
invasion of the rights of the individual is found in the law to enforce contracts. While the
enforcement of contracts in which pecuniary considerations are involved is a matter distinct and
different from that of the enforcement of contracts involving the happiness of individuals, even
in them the governments has no legitimate right to interfere. The logical deduction of the right of
two people to make a contract without consulting the government, or any third party, is the right
of either or both of the parties to withdraw without consulting any third party, either in reference
to its enforcement or as to damages.
As has been stated, such an arrangement is the result of the exercise of the right of two or more
individuals to unite their rights, perfectly independent of every outside party. There is neither
right nor duty beyond the uniting-the contracting-individuals. So neither can there be an appeal
to a third party to settle any difference which may arise between such parties. All such contracts
have their legitimate basis and security in the honor and purposes of the contracting parties. It
seems to me that, admitting our theory of government, no proposition can be plainer than is this,
notwithstanding the practice is entirely different. But I am now discussing the abstract principles
of the rights of freedom, which no practice that may be in vogue must be permitted to deter us
from following to legitimate conclusions.
In all general contracts, people have the protection of government in contracting for an hour, a
day, a week, a year, a decade, or a life, and neither the government nor any other third party or
persons, or aggregates of persons ever think of making a scale of respectability, graduated by the
length of time for which the contracts are made and maintained. Least of all does the
government require that any of these contracts shall be entered into for life. Why should the
social relations of the sexes be made subject to a different theory? All enacted laws that are for
the purpose of perpetuating conditions which are themselves the results of evolution are so many
obstructions in the path of progress; since if an effect attained to-day is made the ultimate,
progress stops. "Thus far shalt thou go, and no farther," is not the adage of a progressive age like
the present. Besides, there can be no general law made to determine what individual cases
demand, since a variety of conditions cannot be subject to one and the same rule of operation.
Here we arrive at the most important of all facts relating to human needs and experiences: That
while every human being has a distinct individuality, and is entitled to all the rights of a
sovereign over it, it is not taken into the consideration that no two of these individualities are
made up of the self-same powers and experiences, and therefore cannot be governed by the same
law to the same purposes.
I would recall the attention of all objecting egotists, Pharisees and would-be regulators of society
to the true functions of government-to protect the complete exercise of individual rights, and
what they are no living soul except the individual has any business to determine or to meddle
with, in any way whatever, unless his own rights are first infringed.
If a person believe that a certain theory is a truth, and consequently the right thing to advocate
and practice, but from its being unpopular or against established public opinion does not have
the moral courage to advocate or practice it, that person is a moral coward and traitor to his own
conscience, which God gave for a guide and guard.
What I believe to be the truth I endeavor to practice, and, in advocating it, permit me to say I
shall speak so plainly that none may complain that I did not make myself understood.
The world has come up to the present time through the outworking of religious, political,
philosophical and scientific principles, and today we stand upon the threshold of greater in more
important things than have ever interested the intellect of man. We have arrived where the very
foundation of all that has been must be analyzed and understood-and this foundation is the
relation of the sexes. These are the bases of society-the very last to secure attention, because the
most comprehensive of subjects.
All other departments of inquiry which have their fountain in society have been formulated into
special sciences, and made legitimate and popular subjects for investigation; but the science of
society itself has been, and still is, held to be too sacred a thing for science to lay its rude hands
upon. But of the relations of science to society we may say the same that has been said of the
relations of science to religion: "That religion has always wanted to do good, and now science is
going to tell it how to do it."
Over the sexual relations, marriages have endeavored to preserve sway and to hold the people in
subjection to what has been considered a standard of moral purity. Whether this has been
successful or not may be determined from the fact that there are scores of thousand of women
who are denominated prostitutes, and who are supported by hundreds of thousands of men who
should, for like reasons, also be denominated prostitutes, since what will change a woman into a
prostitute must also necessarily change a man into the same.
This condition, called prostitution, seems to be the great evil at which religion and public
morality hurl their special weapons of condemnation, as the sum total of all diabolism; since for
a woman to be a prostitute is to deny her not only all Christian, but also all humanitarian rights.
But let us inquire into this matter, to see just what it is; not in the vulgar or popular, or even legal
sense, but in a purely scientific and truly moral sense.
It must be remembered that we are seeking after such for the sake of the truth, and in utter
disregard of everything except the truth; that is to say, we are seeking for the truth, "let it be
what it may and lead where it may." To illustrate, I would say the extremest thing possible. If
blank materialism were true, it would be best for the world to know it.
If there be any who are not in harmony with this desire, then such have nothing to do with what I
have to say, for it will be said regardless of antiquate forms or fossilized dogmas, but in the
simplest and least offending language that I can choose.
If there is anything in the whole universe that should enlist the earnest attention of everybody,
and their support and advocacy to secure it, it is that upon which the true Welfare and happiness
of everybody depends. Now to what more than to anything else do humanity owe their welfare
and happiness? Most clearly to being born into carthly existence with a sound and perfect
physical, mental and moral beginning of life, with no taint or disease attaching to them, either
mentally, morally or physically. To be so born involves the harmony of conditions which will
produce such results. To have such conditions involves the existence of such relations of the
sexes as will in themselves produce them.
Now I will put the question direct. Are not these eminently proper subjects for inquiry and
discussion, not in that manner of maudlin sentimentality in which it has been the habit, but in a
dignified, open, lowest and fearless way, in which subjects of so great importance should be
inquired into and discussed?
An exhaustive treatment of these subjects would involve the inquiry what should be the chief end
to be gained by entering into sexual relations. This I must simply answer by saying, "Good
children, who will not need to regenerated," and pass to the consideration of the relations
themselves.
All the relations between the sexes that are recognized as legitimate are denominated marriage.
But of what does marriage consist? This very pertinent question requires settlement before any
real progress can be made as to what Social Freedom and Prostitution mean. It is admitted by
everybody that marriage is a union of the opposite in sex, but is it a principle of nature outside of
all law, or is it a law outside of all nature? Where is the point before reaching which it is not
marriage, but having reached which it is marriage? Is it where two meet and realize that the love
clements of their nature are harmonious, and that they blend into and make one purpose of life?
or is it where a soulless form is pronounced over two who know no commingling of life's hopes?
Or are both these processes required-first, the marriage union without the law, to be afterward
solemnized by the law? If both terms are required, does the marriage continue after the first
departs? or if the restrictions of the law are removed and the love continues, does marriage
continue? or if the law unite two who hate each other, is that marriage? Thus are presented all
the possible aspects of the case.
The courts hold if the law solemnly pronounce two married, that they are married, whether love
is present or not. But this really such a marriage as this enlightened age should demand? No! It
is a stupidly arbitrary law, which can find no analogies in nature. Nature proclaims in broadest
terms, and all her subjects re-echo the same grand truth, that sexual unions, which result in
reproduction, are marriage. And sex exists wherever there is reproduction.
By analogy, the same law ascends into the sphere of and applies among men and women; for are
not they a part and parcel of nature in which this law exists as a principle? This law of nature by
which men and women are united by love is God's marriage law, the enactments of men to the
contrary notwithstanding. And the precise results of this marriage will be determined by the
character of those united; all the experiences evolved from the marriage being the legitimate
sequences thereof.
marriage must consist either of love or of law, since it may exist in form with either term absent;
that is to say, people may be married by law and all love be lacking; and they may also be
married by love and lack all sanction of law. True marriage must in reality consist entirely either
of law or love, since there can be no compromise between the law of nature and statute law by
which the former shall yield to the latter.
Law cannot change what nature has already determined. Neither will love obey if law command.
Law cannot compel two to love. It has nothing to do either with love or with its absence. Love is
superior to all law, and so also is hate, indifference, disgust and all other human sentiments
which are evoked in the relations of the sexes. It legitimately and logically follows, if love have
anything to do with marriage, that law has nothing to do with it. And on the contrary, if law have
anything to do with marriage, that love has nothing to do with it. And there is no escaping the
deduction.
If the test of the rights of the individual be applied to determine which of these propositions is
the true one, what will be the result?
Two persons, a male and a female, meet, and are drawn together by a mutual attraction-a natural
feeling unconsciously arising within their natures of which neither has any control-which is
denominated love. This a matter that concerns these two, and no other living soul has any human
right to say aye, yes or no, since it is a matter in which none except the two have any right to be
involved, and from which it is the duty of these two to exclude every other person, since no one
can love for another or determine why another loves.
If true, mutual, natural attraction be sufficiently strong to be the dominant power, them it
decides marriage; and if it be so decided, no law which may be in force can any more prevent
the union than a human law could prevent the transformation of water into vapor, or the
confluence of two streams; and for precisely the same reasons: that it is a natural law which is
obeyed; which law is as high above human law as perfection is high above imperfection. They
marry and obey this higher law than man can make-a law as old as the universe and as immortal
as the elements, and for which there is no substitute.
They are sexually united, to be which is to be married by nature, and to be thus married is to be
united by God. This marriage is performed without special mental volition upon the part of
either, although the intellect may approve what the affections determine; thus is to say, they
marry because they love, and they love because they can neither prevent nor assist it. Suppose
after this marriage has continued an indefinite time, the unity between them departs, could they
any more prevent it than they can prevent the love? It came without their bidding, may it not also
go without their bidding? And if it go, does not the marriage cease, and should any third persons
or parties, either as individuals or government, attempt to compel the continuance of a unity
wherein none of the elements of the union remain?
At no point in the process designated has there been any other than an exercise of the right of the
two individuals to pursue happiness in their own way, which may has neither crossed nor
interfered with any one else's right to the same pursuit; therefore, there is no call for a law to
change, modify, protect or punish this exercise. It must be concluded, then, if individuals have
the Constitutional right to pursue happiness in their own way, that all compelling laws of
marriage and divorce are despotic, being remnants of the barbaric ages in which they were
originated, and utterly unfitted for an age so advanced upon that, and so enlightened in the
general principles of freedom and equality, as is this.
It must be remembered that it is the sphere of government to perform the duties which are
required of it by the people, and that it has, in itself, no rights to exercise. These belong
exclusively to the people whom it represents. It is one of the rights of a citizen to have a voice in
determining what the duties of government shall be, and also provide how that right may be
exercised; but government should not prohibit any right.
To love is a right higher than Constitutions or laws. It is a right which Constitutions and laws
can neither give nor take, and with which they have nothing whatever to do, since in its very
nature it is forever independent of both Constitutions and laws, and exists-comes and goes-in
spite of them. Governments might just as well assume to determine how people shall exercise
their right to think or to say that they shall not think at all, as to assume to determine that they
shall not love, or how they may love, or that they shall love.
The proper sphere of government in regard to the relations of the saxes, is to enact such laws as
in the present conditions of society are necessary to protect each individual in the free exercise
of his or her right to love, and also to protect each individual from the forced interference of
every other person, that would compel him or her to submit to any action which is against their
wish and will. If the law do this it fulfills its duty. If the law do not afford this protection, and
worse still, if it sanction this interference with the rights of an individual, then it is infamous law
and worthy only of the old-time despotism; since individual tyranny forms no part of the
guarantee of, or the right to, individual freedom.
It is therefore a strictly legitimate conclusion that where there is no love as a basis of marriage
there should be no marriage, and if that which was the basis of a marriage is taken away that the
marriage also ceases from the time, statute laws to the contrary notwithstanding.
Such is the character of the law that permeates nature from simplest organic forms-units of
nucleated protoplasm to the most complex aggregation thereof-the human form. Having
determined that marriage consists of a union resulting from love, without any regard whatever to
the sanction of law, and consequently that the sexual relations resulting therefrom are strictly
legitimate and natural, it is a very simple matter to determine what part of the sexual relations
which are maintained are prostitutions of the relations.
It is certain by this Higher Law, that marriages of convenience, and, still more, marriages
characterized by mutual or partial repugnance, are adulterous. And it does not matter whether
the repugnance arises before or subsequently to the marriage ceremony. Compulsion, whether of
the law or of a false public opinion, is detestable, as an element even, in the regulation of the
most tender and important of all human relations.
I do not care where it is that sexual commerce results from the dominant power of one sex over
the other, compelling him or her to submission against the instincts of love, and where hate or
disgust is present, whether it be in the gilded palaces of Fifth avenue or in the lowest purlieus of
Greene street, there is prostitution, and all the law that a thousand State Assemblies may pass
cannot make it otherwise.
I know whereof I speak; I have seen the most damning misery resulting from legalized
prostitution. Misery such as the most degraded of those against whom society has shut her doors
never know. Thousands of poor, weak, unresisting wives are yearly murdered, who stand in
spirit-life looking down upon the sickly, half made-up children left behind, imploring humanity
for the sake of honor and virtue to look into this matter, to look into it to the very bottom, and
bring out into the fair daylight all the blackened, sickening deformities that have so long been
hidden by the screen of public opinion and a sham morality.
It does not matter how much it may still be attempted to gloss these things over and to label
them sound and pure; you, each and every one of you, know that what I say is truth, and if you
question your own souls you dare not reply: it is not so. If these things to which I refer, but of
which I shudder to think, are not abuses of the sexual relations, what are?
You may or may not think there is help for them, but I say Heaven help us if such barbarism
cannot be cured.
I would not be understood to say that there are no good conditions in the present marriage state.
By no means do I say this; on the contrary, a very large proportion of present social relations are
commendable-are as good as the present status of society makes possible. But what I do assert,
and, that most positively, is, that all which is good and commendable, now existing, would
continue to exist if all marriage laws were repealed to-morrow. Do you not perceive that law has
nothing to do in continuing the relations which are based upon continuous love? These are not
results of the law to which, perhaps, their subjects yielded a willing or unwilling obedience.
Such relations exist in spite of the law; would have existed had there been no law, and would
continue to exist were the law annulled.
It is not of the good there is in the present condition of marriage that I complain, but of the ill,
nearly the whole of which is the direct result of the law which continues the relations in which it
exists. It seems to be the general argument that if the law of marriage were annulled it would
follow that everybody must necessarily separate, and that all present family relations would be
sundered, and complete anarchy result therefrom. Now, whoever makes that argument either
does so thoughtlessly or else he is dishonest; since if he make it after having given any
consideration thereto, he must know it to be false. And if he have given it no consideration then
is he no proper judge. I give it as my opinion, founded upon an extensive knowledge of, and
intimate acquaintance with, married people, if marriage laws were repealed that less than a
fourth of those now married would immediately separate, and that one-half of these would return
to their allegiance voluntarily within one year; only those who, under every consideration of
virtue and good, should be separate, would permanently remain separated. And objectors as well
as I know it would be so. I assert that it is false to assume that chaos would result from the
abrogation of marriage laws, and on the contrary affirm that from that very hour the chaos was
existing would begin to turn into order and harmony. What then creates social disorder? Very
clearly, the attempt to exercise powers over human rights which are not warrantable upon the
hypothesis of the existence of human rights which are inalienable in, and sacred to, the
individual.
It is true there is no enacted law compelling people to marry, and it is therefore argued that if
they do marry they should always be compelled to abide thereby. But there is a law higher than
any human enactments which does compel marriage-the law of nature-the law of God. There
being this law in the constitution of humanity, which, operating freely, guarantees marriage, why
should men enforce arbitrary rules and forms? These, though having no virtue in themselves, if
not complied with by men and women, they in the meantime obeying the law of their nature,
bring down upon them the condemnations of an interfering community. Should people, then,
voluntarily entering legal marriage be held thereby "till death do them part?" Most emphatically
no, if the desire to do so do not remain. How can people who enter upon marriage in utter
ignorance of that which is to render the union happy or miserable be able to say that they will
always "love and live together." They may take these vows upon them in perfect good faith and
repent of them in sackcloth and ashes within a twelve-month.
I think it will be generally conceded that without love there should be no marriage. In the
constitution of things nothing can be more certain. This basic fact is fatal to the theory of
marriage for life: since if love is what determines marriage, so, also, should it determine its
continuance. If it be primarily right of men and women to take on the marriage relation of their
own free will and accord, so, too, does it remain their right to determine how long it shall
continue and when it shall cease. But to be respectable (?) people must comply with the law, and
thousands do comply therewith, while in their hearts they protest against it as an unwarrantable
interference and proscription of their rights. Marriage laws that would be consistent with the
theory of individual rights would be such as would regulate these relations, such as regulate all
other associations of people. They should only be obliged to file marriage articles, containing
whatever provisions may be agreed upon, as to their personal rights, rights of property, of
children, or whatever else they may deem proper for them to agree upon. And whatever these
articles might be, they should in all cases be equally entitled to public respect and protection.
Should separation afterward come, nothing more should be required than the simple filing of
counter articles.
There are hundreds of lawyers who subsist by inventing schemes by which people may obtain
divorces, and the people desiring divorces resort to all sorts of tricks and crimes to get them.
And all this exists because there are laws which would compel the oneness of those to whom
unity is beyond the realm of possibility. There are another class of persons who, while virtually
divorced, endeavor to maintain a respectable position in society, by agreeing to disagree, each
following his and her individual ways, behind the cloak of legal marriage. Thus there are
hundreds of men and women who to external appearances are husband and wife, but in reality
are husband or wife to quite different persons.
If the conditions of society were completely analyzed, it would be found that all persons whom
the law holds married against their wishes find some way to evade the law and to live the life
they desire. Of what use, then, is the law except to make hypocrites and pretenders of a sham
respectability?
But, exclaims a very fastidious person, then you would have all women become prostitutes! By
no means would I have any woman become a prostitute. But if by nature women are so, all the
virtue they possess being of the legal kind, and not that which should exist with or without law,
then I say they will not become prostitutes because the law is repealed, since at heart they are
already so. If there is no virtue, no honesty, no purity, no trust among women except as created
by the law, I say heaven help our morality, for nothing human can help it.
It seems to me that no grosser insult could be offered to woman than to insinuate that she is
honest and virtuous only because the law compels her to be so; and little do men and women
realize the obloquy thus cast upon society, and still less do women realize what they admit of
their sex by such assertions. I honor and worship that purity which exists in the soul of every
noble man or woman, while I pity the woman who is virtuous simply because a law compels her.
But, says another objector, though the repeal of marriage laws might operate well enough in all
those cases where a mutual love or hate would determine continuous marriage or immediate
divorce, how can a third class of cases be justified, in which but one of the parties desire the
separation, while the other clings to the unity?
I assume, in the first place, when there is not mutual love there is no union to continue and
nothing to justify, and it has already been determined that, as marriage should have love as a
basis, if love depart marriage also departs. But laying this aside, see if there can any real good or
happiness possibly result from an enforced continuance of marriage upon the part of one party
thereto. Let all persons take this question home to their own souls, and there determine if they
could find happiness in holding unwilling hearts in bondage. It is against the nature of things
that any satisfaction can result from such a state of things except it be the satisfaction of
knowing that you have succeeded in virtually imprisoning the person whom you profess to love,
and that would be demoniacal.
Again. It must be remembered that the individual affairs of two persons are not the subject of
interference by any third party, and if one of them chose to separate, there is no power outside of
the two which can rightly interfere to prevent. Beside, who is to determine whether there will be
more happiness sacrificed by a continuation or a separation. If a person is fully determined to
separate, it is proof positive that another feeling stronger than all his or her sentiments of duty
determine it. And here, again, who but the individual is to determine which course will secure
the most good? Suppose that a separation is desired because one of the two loves and is loved
elsewhere. In this case, if the union be maintained by force, at least two of three, and, probably,
all three persons will be made unhappy thereby; whereas if separation come and the other union
be consummated, there will be but one, unhappy. So even here, if the greatest good of the
greatest number is to rule, separation is not only legitimate, but desirable. In all other things
except marriage it is always held to be the right thing to do to break a bad bargain or promise
just as soon as possible, and I hold that of all things in which this rule should apply, it should
first apply to marriages.
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